What did I say?

There is this phenomenon related to husbands. Perhaps to wives as well. I don’t know about that – not having one. But if you want him to start talking, get busy doing something else.

Let me give you an example. We are on a road trip of just about 300 miles heading to Northern California. He is listening to the radio. I have an audiobook loaded on my phone (note – for those of you who haven’t located them yet – iTunes no longer drops audiobooks in the Music App but has filed them into iBooks. More than a few minutes of digging on their help site to find that little gem). We start moving past NPR range. I have lost interest in the radio programming which never takes more than a few minutes at the best of times and put on my head phones, being polite and not wanting to disturb him.

Not more than 3 minutes later, he starts to talk. I take off the headphones. The conversation doesn’t last more than a couple of minutes. Ask hime if there is anything else? No. I put my headphones back on. This time it is almost five minutes before we run through the cycle. The next time 2 minutes, the time after that 7, 5, 3, 1, 8 …. you get the idea. Any idea how many times this cycle could be repeated in a five + hour car trip? After almost loosing count (will we make 25 interruptions?) I finally ask him what is going on.

He looks at me blankly. I said I would love to chat, otherwise I was listening to my audiobook.


Did he realize that he was starting up on the average of every four minutes? Talking would be wonderful; if not I was trying to follow a story line. I’m not a teenager or early 20s. I don’t have one ear bud in as a routine part of my life so that some loud incomprehensible noise is providing a soundtrack to my every move and thought. I listen to professional podcasts or audiobooks, some of which require concentration.

Conversation followed by quiet listening. Which lasted till we hit the Redwoods when the cycle started over with comments on passing Parks….

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About Holly

fiber person - knitter, spinner, weaver who spent 33 years being a military officer to fund the above. And home. And family. Sewing and quilting projects are also in the stash. After living again in Heidelberg after retiring (finally) from the U.S. Army May 2011, we moved to the US ~ Dec 2015. Something about being over 65 and access to health care. It also might have had to do with finding a buyer for our house. Allegedly this will provide me a home base in the same country as our four adult children, all of whom I adore, so that I can drive them totally insane. Considerations of time to knit down the stash…(right, and if you believe that…) and spin and .... There is now actually enough time to do a bit of consulting, editing. Even more amazing - we have only one household again. As long as everyone understands that I still, 40 years into our marriage, don't do kitchens or bathrooms. For that matter, not being a golden retriever, I don't do slippers or newspapers either. I don’t miss either the military or full-time clinical practice. Limiting my public health/travel med/consulting and lecturing to “when I feel like it” has let me happily spend my pension cruising, stash enhancing (oops), arguing with the DH about where we are going to travel next and book buying. Life is good!
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9 Responses to What did I say?

  1. Vicki says:

    Yes I definitely think it is a husband behavior.

  2. Mark says:

    One thing to remember.I would bet my life on. You would not trade him off for anything.

  3. Alison H says:

    Chuckling. Sounds so familiar. (Even if it wouldn’t be audiobooks for me.)

  4. Bill R says:

    I will pass this to Jo letting her know I’m not the only one who does this (:-))

  5. Bob says:

    This is where the aging process is so wonderful. One need only act completely surprised when touched, or the vocal range is sufficiently raised, to make the partner have to think about whether you’re hearing or not. What’s remarkable is how quickly they learn to not disturb you unless it’s something IMPORTANT. However, one should ALWAYS be prepared for the important interruptions.

    Hope George’s birthday was well-celebrated.

  6. Barbara says:

    Yep cracked me up!

  7. Chere says:

    Oh yes, been there, heard that.

  8. Marise says:

    hahaha u r funny! I have the opposite …. if I don’t initiate a conversation, I don’t get one!

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